Is your life a constant struggle?
Are you always saying things like “I’m battling this” or “I’m fighting against that”?
Do you view it as something you must fight against and battle every day from the time you get out of bed until you go back to bed at night?
Is it true that your life is really that much of a struggle, or are you creating struggles and obstacles just so you can prove that you can overcome them?
WHAT?
Yes, it’s true; you just might be doing that!
Ask yourself, “Do I believe that I must always have something to overcome, something to fight, something to fix?”
And if you don’t have those struggles, battles, and things to overcome and to fix, do you think that your life would have no purpose and no meaning?
Perhaps you have given yourself the job of “The Fixer”!
Some people are just fixers. They always have to have something or someone to fix, some obstacles to overcome, just to prove that they can do it.
And the interesting part to that is if nothing shows up for them to fix, they create it instead. Then they are doubly capable because they can create something incredibly troublesome and then fix it too! How amazing does THAT make them?
As a “recovering fixer”, I understand that need. It can be such a satisfying feeling to fix things, to overcome those obstacles, help someone overcome their obstacles, and win those battles. And yet that role of Fixer wasn’t really getting me anywhere.
Instead, I finally realized that I was creating more trauma and drama in my life just to have things to focus on rather than focusing on how to have more fun and happiness in my life!
Yes, I would create just enough money difficulties to make it look important and impossible, but not enough to actually BE impossible.
Just enough relationship difficulties and troublesome people to make it appear like a tangled mess, but not enough that I couldn’t get out of it and find some peace.
Just enough difficulties and frustrations with my job to make it seem overwhelming, but not enough to actually quit.
It was a great game!
Then one day a friend said to me, “You don’t really have to fight so hard.” And I realized that I was continually creating the battles. That life didn’t have to be that way!
Now I am not saying that I don’t occasionally have relapses. Being a Fixer can be addictive, however, I recognize when I slip into it and say, “What am I creating here just so I can be a Fixer?” and it helps me get through and out of it.
I use my tools (especially Access Consciousness®) and ask, “what do I have to be and do to have more ease in my life?” to help me stop battling and create a life that is more enjoyable.
What things in your life have you been fighting? Have you been fighting with your body, your relationships, your job, your family?
Are you creating things to overcome so you can prove that you can actually overcome it?
Are you creating obstacles to distract you from actually getting to the root of what is not working in your life?
What else would be possible if you stopped struggling, stopped fighting, stopped distracting?
Are you ready to stop fighting life, your body and everything else in life and create something different?
Start asking yourself what it would take to make your life easier and more fun!
Now is a great time!
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