“Dream and give yourself permission to envision a You that you choose to be,” said Joy Page – actress in Casablanca and Kismet.
Are you waiting for permission to be you?
Are you waiting for permission to dream?
Are you waiting for permission to be happy?
I hear people say things like “I can’t buy new clothes until I have lost 15 pounds” or “I can’t go on a vacation until I complete this project” or “I can time off because …..”
They always have some reason that they won’t allow themselves to do something whether it is to buy something for themselves or move into a new place or leave a miserable job or whatever. They won’t give themselves permission to do what they truly desire to do.
What creates that? Why would they do such a thing?
Guilt
Often people have guilt when they do things for themselves. They have been brought up believing that they must put everyone else first and themselves last.
So any time that they do something just for themselves or even consider doing something for themselves, it creates guilt in them and they either don’t choose what they would like to have or they choose it and then feel guilty for having chosen it.
Punishment
People often punish themselves for choosing what they believe they shouldn’t choose. Whether it is something they believe they shouldn’t eat or an item that costs more than they believe they should spend or whatever.
They obtain the item and then proceed to punish themselves for choosing it and again feel guilty if they actually allow themselves to enjoy having that item in their lives.
Judgment
Another reason people don’t allow themselves to choose what they truly desire is the fear of being judged by others. They believe other people will judge them as selfish or extravagant or frivolous, so they choose something less just to avoid the judgment.
They may even desire to avoid judging themselves for their desires and choices!
Where Now?
And there are other reasons people don’t choose for themselves.
What’s your reason?
Why don’t you choose for you?
Why are you refusing to give yourself permission to choose what you would truly like to have in your life?
Do you believe it is frivolous or too extravagant or selfish?
Do you feel guilt or shame for desiring something different?
Are you punishing yourself by refusing to give you what you would truly like to have?
Is any of that real? Is it true? Is it how you would like to live your life?
What Do You Want?
What do you truly desire to have in your life?
Seriously, what do you want?
Be honest with yourself. Be present with your desires.
Ask what makes you desire to have that?
What will it create in your life if you have it? What will it create in your life if you don’t have it?
Which of those scenarios is preferable to you? And what would you be willing to do to have it?
Be honest.
Give Yourself Permission
Now, give yourself permission to choose what you would truly desire.
It’s OK.
You deserve to be happy.
It’s your choice.
Allow yourself to choose the life and the “YOU” that you desire to have and be!
Choose for you.
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