Is there something that keeps calling to you, that you wakes you in the middle of the night reminding you that something is “off” in your life?
Do you fight the trends that most people follow? Are you unhappy with being “normal” or “main-stream” or “mediocre”?
That doesn’t make you wrong or make you a bad person.
It means you are dissatisfied.
And, even though many people may tell you that that is bad, dissatisfaction is not really a “curse”.
“Dissatisfaction is a possibility that you could have, that you are aware of, that you don’t choose,” says Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness. “Most people think if you are dissatisfied you have a terrible problem. No, you have a gift called the ‘awareness of possibility’. Not everyone is dissatisfied. It is a gift you were born with.”
Dissatisfaction is your desire for change, your desire for more, your desire to have something new and different show up.
It’s Just Not Normal
Why do people look at dissatisfaction as a problem?
One reason is that you were probably encouraged to “fit in” and be “normal.”
The need and urge to be normal is an incredibly powerful force. Teachers, family, friends and others spend a lot of time and energy trying to teach you and sometimes force you to be “like everyone else.” Why? Because it’s easier for them if you are bland and mediocre. That way they don’t have to figure you out, they know you will be predictable and they can just ignore you.
You also won’t be a threat. You’re like everyone else, how could you possibly challenge anyone or anything? How could you stand against what they believe and make them uncomfortable?
Yes indeed, to fit in you will hide your talents and suppress your feelings, you hush up that voice of dissatisfaction and move numbly along so you just blend in.
You don’t want to be judged as different or made fun of. You may simply desire to remain hidden and away from everything.
Sometimes you may start feeling depressed or depleted, anxious, frustrated or any number of other forms of distress.
What you may fail to realize is that underneath these symptoms often lies the root cause that you’re not choosing the life you really want. You are choosing to be mediocre and unremarkable when you would really like to shine.
And Then One Day
And then it happens. One day, that little voice of dissatisfaction starts getting louder and more annoying. It keeps poking and prodding you.
It makes the blandness and sameness of your life more and more unpleasant.
It’s no longer possible for you to be like everyone else without being extremely unhappy.
What Can You Do?
As Robert Anthony said, “When it becomes more difficult to suffer than to change… you will change.”
You can start making different choices. You can start changing your life into what you would like it to be.
It may be uncomfortable for a while as you stop being predictable.
Others may judge you for your choices and your changes. And you have to learn to ignore the judgments. It may sound ridiculous, but it really is that simple! It takes a while to learn how to do this, but one simple tool is to realize that everything is merely that person’s point of view and really has nothing to do with you.
“What other people think of you is none of your business.” (Regina Brett)
What if you allowed your dissatisfaction to reign?
What if dissatisfaction is not a curse but an internal compass for more and you began treating it as such?
What if you, as one of the lucky ones on this planet who are dissatisfied, could use that desire for change to catapult you ahead?
Follow Your Dissatisfaction
What if you stopped looking at dissatisfaction as a curse?
What if you stopped treating dissatisfaction as something to be feared and avoided?
What if you stopped interpreting your desire for change and difference as being ungrateful with your life and started treating it as the invitation to moving forward?
What if the next time you feel that you just need to change something, you asked questions?
Questions like:
- What am I not choosing that I could choose?
- What changes could I make that would shift all of this?
- What choices do I have here that I haven’t considered?
- What would I really like to have here?
Once you stop trying to be mediocre and fit in; once you stop making others’ limitations more relevant than the brilliance you are, that is when you can make changes and choices that allow you to be the gift to the world that you truly are.
How many people can you assist and inspire by choosing to be different; choosing to be exceptional?
How much can that change the way you show up in the world?
How much can that increase your happiness and joy?
Enjoy the curse …. NO, the BLESSING of dissatisfaction!
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