Misery Is More Real Than Happiness

I recently watched a new show called Electric Dreams. Here is the description of one particular episode titled “Real Life”:

In a near future, a policewoman who still blames herself for a past tragedy accepts her loving wife’s suggestion to take a vacation in a virtual simulation, but she soon realizes that this might be the real life and hers is a simulation.

Now, my commentary is going to contain spoilers, so if you don’t want to know about the episode, stop reading now.

In this episode, as the description says, the police officer, Sarah, can no longer tell which version of her life is reality and which is the simulation.

In one “life” she is a female police officer “who still blames herself for a past tragedy” but in all other respects, she is happy with a loving wife and comments that her life almost “too good to be true”.

In the other “life” she is a man who is the owner of a multi-million dollar corporation. He tragically lost his wife and is trying to find her killers.

Eventually, Sarah is arguing with people in each “life” as to which is real and which is the simulation.

Happiness Isn’t Believable

What I found most disturbing about the episode was that the arguments revolved around which is more believable, that she is happy in one life as a detective solving cases and has an amazing, loving wife or that she is miserable in the other life because her wife, whom she was actually cheating on, was killed and she can’t get over it.

Ultimately she decides that being happy isn’t as believable as being miserable, so she mentally abandons the happy life and stays in the miserable one.

Strangely she can accept that she owns a multi-million dollar company, but not that she could be happy.

What does that say about us as a species when we can say that unhappiness is more believable than happiness?

I used to work with people who were always complaining that several of our coworkers were just too annoyingly happy and cheerful. It was much more acceptable to be complaining and miserable than to be happy. Unhappiness was tolerable; happiness was irritating.

Are You Willing To Be Happy?

So, where am I going with this?

Which category do you fall into? Do you find happiness or unhappiness more believable and acceptable?

Does happiness and joy in others irritate you?

If it does, ask yourself if that is because you are jealous that they are happy and you aren’t?

Do you fear happiness because you are afraid it will be fleeting and you’d rather be miserable all of the time than to have happiness that doesn’t last forever?

Are you willing to be happy?

What if you could start asking yourself what makes you happy?

What can you change in your life that will bring you more joy and happiness?

What can you release and let go that is currently creating unhappiness?

Are you hanging onto resentments and anger, frustrations and fears? Would you be willing to start letting go of those and focusing on what brings you joy, gratitude and happiness?


What if you started expressing your gratitude for the wonders, joys, laughs, fun, caring, love, people and amazement in your life every day? It helps you focus on what you’d like to bring into your life rather than what you are trying to avoid. You get more of what you focus upon, so focus on gratitude, joy and happiness!

It can be a life-changer!

And, if you need a little help focusing on gratitude, you can get my Gratitude For Life Journal to help you see all the big and little joys that exist in your life that bring you happiness. It’s on Amazon (click here http://bit.ly/GratJournalPB)

As I said, gratitude is a life-changer and a happiness-bringer!

Is now the time to allow more happiness into your life?

Is now the time to choose happiness?