The last few weeks I have been talking about your addiction to problems and to fixing other people.

This week I ask, “Who is your current Fixer-Upper?”

Who is the current person that you believe you must fix or prevent themselves from breaking even more?

Is that truly your job to fix them?

Are they actually broken?

This may come as a surprise to you, but you don’t have to carry other people’s burdens and you don’t have to fix everyone.  Who knew, right?

In my book, Launchpad 2020: The Art And [Rocket] Science Of Breakthroughs And Possibilities, Possibility Principle #3 is “The Fixer Upper” and it’s about letting go of continually finding people to fix.

I get it. It can be rewarding for you to “fix” others. It makes you feel important, useful, like you’re a superhero.

And when you care for others, you see their challenges, burdens, issues, and problems and you think you have to fix it for them, carry it for them, share it with them.

When you do that, first, you are actually forcing your views on them of how they should live, which may not be the right fit for them. Perhaps it’s time to allow them to learn to stand on their own. Isn’t that what you really would like for others; for them to be able to stand on their own?

Second, you really can’t change things that someone doesn’t want to change. Realistically, do your Fixer-Uppers stay fixed or do they bring in some new problem or even the same problem again? Or perhaps they begin to resent your “fixing”.

The more energy you expend in the attempt to change and fix the person often just creates more resistance and gives you increasing feelings of burden and stress.

Add up all the burdens you carry for everyone you know. That is a lot of extra baggage you are carrying around. And you wonder where your neck and back aches come from??

What if instead, you could:

• Assist them rather than fix things for them or carry it for them?
• Support rather than take over or take on or carry?
• Encourage rather than discourage?

So ask yourself is being The Fixer really worth it? Does it actually help anyone, especially you?

If the answer is “No”, then perhaps it’s time to give up that job and set yourself and your Fixer-Uppers free!

As Gabby Bernstein said:

The most loving thing we can do for someone is to accept them.

Is now the time to accept people for who they are and give up trying to fix them?

Let the change begin!

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My book, “Launchpad 2020: The Art And [Rocket] Science Of Breakthroughs And Possibilities” walks you through being “The Fixer” and letting it go as part of Possibility Principle #3: The Fixer Upper.

The book is an adventure in Possibilities that will help you discover the art of possibilities as well as the science of it. As you journey through the Possibilities.​

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