The ONE Reason Forgiving Yourself Is Hard

Do you have people and events in your life that were really difficult to forgive? Or maybe even ones you still have not forgiven?

Do those things just keep coming back to haunt you even though you believe that you have forgiven everyone?

Perhaps you forgot someone? Perhaps the one person you didn’t forgive was you!

I know, I have said that to people and their response was, “I don’t think I have anything to be forgiven for!” However that’s not what I am talking about.

What I refer to is the fact YOU have not forgiven YOURSELF. You have not forgiven you for taking part in all of it, for needing the lesson, for hanging onto it, for not forgiving others, for getting lost in it all … for all sorts of things.

You are still angry with the one person you are still blaming for everything … YOU!

What makes you continue to blame yourself? All sorts of things!

Maybe you don’t want to admit that you might have been wrong in the situation!

“Who me, wrong? Absurd!”

Does that sound familiar? How much energy are you wasting trying to justify what happened, how it happened, why it happened and on and on, looping back through everything trying to ensure that you were right in all of it.

You judge yourself much harsher than you judge others. Yes it’s true. You believe that you should have known better, you should have handled it better, you should have … should have … really, really should have!!!

And when you don’t measure up to those “should haves”, then you are just so wrong!! And you don’t want to be wrong … you want to be RIGHT! ALWAYS RIGHT!!!

How could you let yourself down like that? AGAIN! How dare you not measure up to those high standards that you have for yourself? How DARE you?!?!

You need to be punished. So you punish yourself in some way like eating poorly, not sleeping, drinking too much or some such thing. Now you have abused your body so you have something else to not forgive yourself for!

It just goes on and on like that. Wrongness, rightness, judgement … heaped upon each other, looping over and over again. It’s exhausting!

You give so much of your energy to it. Energy that you would be using to create a life that you would like to live!

So, what now?

Let Go Of Right And Wrong

I know it sounds hard, but let go of the idea that you have to be right or have to be wrong in the situation.

Let’s face it, in the long run, does it matter? You’ve wasted so much time and energy on it already and it hasn’t solved anything, has it? So allow yourself to step aside from the whole thing.

As you step aside, you realize that you can STOP JUDGING YOU!!!

Let Go Of Judgement Of You

Yes, cut yourself some slack!

Realize that you don’t have to create all of those standards for yourself and constantly judge whether you measure up or not!

Having a judgement prevents you from seeing the things that don’t match those judgements. It’s as if you have put on blinders (like they use on horses) so you won’t see anything except the things that match those judgements.

You let so much of life pass you by because it doesn’t match what you have decided it must look like. Thus you create rejection, victimization, lack and the sense that you have no choice in life!

Wouldn’t you rather have a life that has choice and possibilities; that is open and expanding?

When you start judging yourself, stop and ask yourself “What else is possible here that I haven’t considered?” and allow the Universe to show you the possibilities.

Allow that judgement and the feeling that you NEED to judge you, to just slip away!

Expanding Out Meditation

This meditation can assist you in letting go of things and releasing the significance of them. (Watch the meditation here on Facebook, even if you don’t have an account. Just click here).

First, close your eyes.

Get the sense of the energy that you are. Do you have bounds? No, you are infinite. You are not confined by your body, you can expand beyond your body.

Now expand your energy to fill the room where you are, expand out 20 feet in all directions – up, down, on all sides

Now, expand out 100 feet in all directions – up, down, on all sides.

Now, expand out 1 mile in all directions.

Now 100 miles, a 1000, 10000.

Expand to fill and cover the Earth.

Expand out to the orbit of the moon, then into the solar system.

Then out into the galaxy, then out into the stars and beyond if you wish.

Now, turn around and look back toward the Earth. Look back at your problems. Do you see how small and insignificant they are now? Maybe you can’t see them at all any more.

Realize that they are and have always been that way. So why are you giving so much energy to them? Just let them go.

And when you are ready, come back.

How was that? Were you able to let go? You may need to repeat it a few times.

Wonderful isn’t it?

So freeing.

You deserve to forgive you so you can use all that energy to create a life you would love to live!

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